Deconstructing Privilege
summary
Privilege means being spared a specific hardship and can be an invisible advantage; the useful goal is to move from obliviousness to Conscious Incompetence so listening replaces denial. Concrete harms listed include hairdresser violence, banned travel, dead‑naming and workplace shaming; problematic tactics identified are sea‑lioning, mansplaining and tone policing. Practical steps are simple: Google and follow marginalized voices, avoid asking them to educate, and use your status to lift others — lending privilege and sponsor not just mentor.
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chapters (12)
- 0:00Start
- 3:03THE FOUR STAGES OF COMPETENCE
- 8:07CONSCIOUS INCOMPETENCE RESULTS IN LISTENING
- 10:32Has anyone at work ever asked you how you have sex with your partner?
- 12:14Has anyone at work ever asked you what your genitalia looks like?
- 15:36Do people ridicule you as a parent because of your gender?
- 21:06Sexual Orientation - Gender Identity - Gender Ability Age
- 25:26Passing Privilege How arbitrary is privilege?
- 27:58PRIVILEGE IS BEING SPARED A HARDSHIP
- 29:26Competitive Communication Style - Downplaying Issues and Concerns - Interpreting POC (and Women) as Angry - Not Trusting Women's Experiences and Expertise
- 44:48WHAT IS THE IMPACT OF PRIVILEGE?
- 48:00Becoming aware of our privileges opens us up to listening & learning
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