Help your Boss Help You
summary
Argues for a third option between obeying or quitting: build a loyalty-based working relationship so the boss becomes an ally by habit, not friendship. Teaches two repeatable signals — I got this and I got your back — plus concrete tactics: respond with a good enough answer in one Pomodoro (20–25 minutes), hold weekly check-ins, push back privately, and use a Tit for Tat strategy from the iterated Prisoner’s Dilemma to retaliate immediately and forgive fast. Includes scripts and a memorable phrase: “that turns out not to be the case.”
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chapters (8)
- 0:00Managing conflict
- 5:39Aligning incentives
- 12:08The role of the manager
- 18:00Building trust and loyalty
- 23:52Constructive loyalty
- 30:45Responsiveness strategies
- 37:26Game theory for careers
- 50:17Maintaining professional boundaries
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