Difficult Conversations
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Argues that difficult conversations improve when three concrete levers are changed: physiology language and focus. Gives a 60‑second breathing protocol — breathe 5 hold 20 exhale 10 repeated five times to shift state — and prescribes mapping assumptions, mapping fears, and writing outcomes on an index card. Demonstrates mirror‑neuron mirroring (eye contact and smiling) to build empathy, recommends changing location to defuse confrontation, and settling on a mutually agreed standard of fairness.
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chapters (30)
- 0:00Intro
- 0:40Twitter
- 1:17Human Psychology
- 2:32State
- 2:54Physiology
- 4:33Language
- 5:21Focus
- 7:19Connection
- 7:59Human Needs
- 8:13Basic Human Needs
- 12:17Mirror Neurons
- 14:13Find a Partner
- 20:26Remember This
- 20:37Navigation
- 20:47Neuro linguistic programming
- 21:08Negative associations
- 23:06Understand the story
- 23:21Preparation
- 23:56Breathe
- 25:19Map your assumptions
- 26:16Map your fears
- 26:37Index card
- 28:04Know your outcome
- 28:27Make it safe
- 29:31Explore the story
- 30:08Acknowledge their contribution
- 30:57Ask open questions
- 31:56Confrontation
- 34:21Problem Solving
- 35:51Conclusion
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