The Developer's Model for Talking to Managers
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Claim: use a simple, repeatable model to decide when to speak and how to influence outcomes. It teaches sphere of control / influence / concern, demonstrates that phrasing like would it be okay if I made a comment wins more than blunt corrections (audience hand‑raise experiment), and explains the two‑second rule (amygdala vs prefrontal) to avoid escalation. Concrete scenarios include an 8‑week estimate sold as 5, a pizza‑all‑night rescue, and roleplay scripts for negotiating scope instead of reflexive yes/no. No code, just practiced conversational tools and patterns.
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- 0:00Start
- 2:15The Developers Model for Talking to Managers
- 27:01The Ego State Model
- 30:45The Rescuer Mode
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